Do you have topics you enjoy talking about so much your friends wish you’d shut up? Anything you like doing that you would do for free? Do you have an activity that when you stop, you didn’t realize an entire day went by? If so, you’ve found your passion.
I can’t do anything when my daughter is awake. I’m tired. I’ve worked hard, I deserve a break. Excuses, excuses, excuses – that is what I was full of. It’s amazing how easy it is to rationalize laziness, lack of focus, or complacency. We live in such an entitled society that it’s hard to do what’s necessary to obtain our dreams.
There was a funny Cosby episode where Olivia asks Dr. Huxtable to see how tall she was. She stands against the wall, and Cliff marks the appropriate spot. Shortly thereafter she asks to be measured again. When he insists there is no way for her to be any taller, she exclaims, “I know my body!”
To be successful we have to know ourselves – more than just our bodies, though. We have to understand what makes us tick, our strong points, our weaknesses, and what really gets to us. I love personality profiles: Myers-Briggs, StrengthsFinder, The Color Code, DISC, any one that I can afford, I take. This has given me a strong understanding of who I am. It has heightened my self-awareness, and I am more easily able to control myself in different situations. I still haven’t mastered my know-it-all syndrome, though (much to my peers’ dismay).
I came across this quote:
“There comes a special moment in everyone’s life, a moment for which that person was born. That special opportunity, when he seizes it, will fulfill his mission — a mission for which he is uniquely qualified. In that moment, he finds greatness. It is his finest hour.” ~ Winston Churchill
Two people (that I actually have met) really inspire me: Ed Tate and Rory Vaden. These gentlemen are as close as I have come to “celebrities” (except the time I met Steve Forbes, but he doesn’t talk much). Two things about these people inspire me. One, they both worked extremely hard and were rewarded with success. They are models of self-discipline and perseverance. Two, they have never stopped helping other people. Many times I have called Ed to ask a quick question, and we talk for thirty minutes, during which he gives me great advice…advice he normally charges for! Rory, who has a hectic schedule due to a book tour, still takes time to respond to my e-mails personally.
How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. How do you achieve success? One step, one decision at a time. I have heard it said that monumental change and influence doesn’t happen at once. It may seem that way to onlookers, but it is created by a series of incremental steps and decisions. Each day, choosing discipline over watching TV or eating the extra piece of pizza is what helps us reach our goals. What did I say “no” to today: responding to the sixty e-mails in my in-box before sitting down with my husband to discuss date night; and turning on Glee while my daughter played. Instead we hung out, TV-free, as a family.
I am loving Cigna Health Care’s new slogan: “Why not today? GO YOU!” I have been thinking about what that means to me. I have come to realize I am failing myself. I do great at pushing myself and maximizing each day at work, but not as much outside of work. Like most people, I have the typical excuses: “I’m tired when I get home”; “I work hard all day, don’t I deserve some relaxation?” Then a famous quote came to mind: “Good is the enemy of great.” When life is good, people tend to become complacent, content with mediocrity. That’s where I am. I make a decent salary at a job I enjoy, I have a husband, a daughter, a house…seems pretty good. But that’s it; it’s just good.
Yesterday I decided I’m going to change that, focusing on five areas of my life: spirituality, being a spouse, motherhood, leadership, and myself. I laid out some high-level milestones and detailed goals for the next year. I’m starting down the road to change.
Why not today? What are you missing out on because you are complacent? GO YOU!