Why You Can’t Leave Your Personal Life at Home

How successful are you at leaving work at work and your personal life at home? My guess is that even if you are good at this, you can’t separate the two 100%. It is a well-intentioned concept: give your employer 100% focus by not bringing your personal problems to work, and give your family 100% by not thinking about work 24/7. Being fully present where you are is important to success; however, it’s time to realize we are not compartmentalized beings. We cannot turn off the emotion app and turn on the driven-to-succeed app with the push of a button, nor should we want to. So what options do you have? Continue reading

Why Hating Your Job Is Killing You

Have you come to believe that your job is something you tolerate to fund the rest of your life? Have you resigned yourself to the hopeless perspective that work can never be fun? If so, you are internally dying every day. To live that many hours out of your week in a state of hopelessness slowly infects the rest of your life like a disease. Disney’s The Incredibles vividly shows this reality.  Continue reading

Why You Should Stop Faking It until You Make It

Or at least you should stop thinking of it that way. Many people recoil at the premise of faking it until you make it. It seems, well, fake. Inauthentic. I’m here to tell you that it isn’t. It’s semantics. Someone decided they liked the mnemonic device of rhyming and came up with “fake it until you make it.” What it really should say is, “practice until you make it.” That’s all it is, practice. We do this all the time in the arts, sports, etc., so why can’t it extend to the rest of our lives?  Continue reading

I Have to Work for Whom?

I’ve felt fortunate with my past couple of bosses, but I haven’t always been so lucky. In my career I’ve encountered some poor leaders, and I know many people who’ve worked for worse bosses than I have. These could be bosses who always take the credit when things go right and point the finger when it doesn’t. Or how about bosses who decide they just don’t like you on a personal level, so they try to force you out of the company? I’ve encountered passive-aggressive bosses, bosses who demean their employees, and bosses who flat-out lie. At some point in your career you will probably work for a less than ideal boss. What then?  Continue reading

What to Do before You Write a To-Do List

The new year often brings with it an onslaught of planning. We make plans for what we want to achieve within our companies, within our departments, and often in our lives. This usually takes the form of us listing everything we feel we need to achieve that year and assigning dates and sometimes detailed action-plans. Unfortunately, while we may gain short-term success from this activity, our long-term success could be serious stunted. Continue reading

How to Start Living Your Dream Today

What did you want to be when you grew up? No, really. Think back. Remember what you wanted to spend your life doing? Picture yourself as a child, dreaming of the future, knowing someday you would be doing something you would be happy with every day. Do you remember that feeling? Is it a distant memory, or is it a part of your reality?

Somewhere between childhood and becoming an adult, we are suddenly burdened with responsibility and this notion that supporting yourself and living your dream are irreconcilable. But why? Why does it have to be that way? I don’t think it has to! Here are a few thoughts on how to live your dream.  Continue reading