Contrary to popular belief, I don’t have all the answers. I know – you’re shocked, right? Even worse, sometimes I don’t even have enough information to have an opinion. Personally, I can hardly believe that. But here I sit with something I’ve been struggling with for well over a year: focus. Continue reading
The new year often brings with it an onslaught of planning. We make plans for what we want to achieve within our companies, within our departments, and often in our lives. This usually takes the form of us listing everything we feel we need to achieve that year and assigning dates and sometimes detailed action-plans. Unfortunately, while we may gain short-term success from this activity, our long-term success could be serious stunted. Continue reading
“You’re going to be 40 anyway. Do you want to be 40 with a degree or without?” This was encouragement a friend gave her husband as he lamented how long it would take to get his degree going to school part-time. How often do we fail to start something because of how long it will take to reach our goals? We miss the big picture, though: we will still reach them, even if we are 40 or 50 or 90!
My philosophy has always been, “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you will land among the stars.” I’m a firm believer in Jim Collins’ BHAGs (Big Hairy Audacious Goals). Dreaming big builds excitement and enthusiasm that propels us into the future. It also allows the creativity to flow and generate new goals and ideas. However, there are times when big goals are simply unrealistic to the point they work against you.
Keeping the momentum going when pursuing long-term goals can be tough. When faced with lack of progress, you can easily begin to focus on activities other than the ones which will help you obtain your goals. ‘Tis the season to talk about the Olympics, and I can’t help but think that each and every one of them had a cheerleader encouraging them to stick with it and grab their dream.
I am blessed to have a few of those people in my life. They aren’t the people you would naturally think would be my champions. But there are those who tell me that I am good enough to reach my dream and that if anyone could do it, it’s me.
Today was a great day of encouragement. I had the opportunity to chat with one of my speaking role models, Ed Tate, and I gained insights on my new venture. I also got encouragement from a leader in my company who told me I had skills which make me uniquely qualified to do what I want to do.
Find these people in your life, the ones who will tell you that you’re great and who won’t let you give up on your dreams! Find the people who see you for who you are becoming, not just the person you are. And when you find them, don’t forget to tell them how much you appreciate them! We all need a little help from our friends.
If it’s not hard, it’s not worth doing. On the journey of pursuing your goals and dreams, there will most likely be moments of feeling overwhelmed and a lack of progress. Here are a few tips to help get you through the slump.
Examine your actions. Sometimes we get lost in the trees and miss the forest. Our actions begin to misalign with the goal and get us off-track. Take a minute to re-evaluate the path you are on, and ensure it will lead you to the end solution. Continue reading
A disease is spreading in our country, leaving in its wake death. It’s the disease of complacency. It caused the death of spirituality by causing people to accept eroding standards, to allow charitable giving to take a back seat to the American dream, and to believe a spiritual life isn’t as important as the 80-hour work week. It caused the death of marriages as people become complacent in their relationships, assuming erroneously that the hardest part was the wedding. This disease can be blamed for the continuous deterioration of our country by causing people to forget liberties need to be fought for every day. While many want to blame the Democrats or Republicans, the real cause is complacency, which results in the lack of involvement of the American people. This disease causes the death of companies by making leaders think they have reached the top and that it’s okay to enjoy the success. Complacency kills when people believe they no longer have to work to maintain what they have.
When we take on goals to improve aspects of our lives, we seem to focus on the big milestones. People who want to improve their marriages focus on the marriage conferences, date nights, and other big events. People wanting to improve their relationships with their kids often spend their efforts on the vacations. When working on leadership, leaders focus on the big events, like recognition parties. Continue reading
I like to call my generation the “microwave” generation. Instantaneous gratification. It’s even more so now. If you’re hungry, you can get food 24 hours a day. Need information? Smart phones allow instant answers. Need a tattoo? You get the point.
I’m sure by now it’s an urban myth, but the story goes that there was a teacher who had a container. He filled it with rocks and asked the class if the container was full. They responded “yes.” He then took sand and poured it into the container. The sand filled the space between the rocks. Again he asked his class if the container was full. Again the class affirmed that statement. Finally he poured in water. The water filled the space between the sand.