As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, I have a difficult time showing people how valuable they are. Instant, positive connections don’t happen for me very often. I do want to directly increase my ability to inspire people and make people feel valued; however, I’ve found there are also indirect ways to increase it.
I realized I use a lot of the conceptual and structural pieces of my character to connect with my project teams. The structural part of me puts things like, “Go to a team member’s desk and spend time talking with them” on a checklist so I can remember to create circumstances where I am visible and approachable. The conceptual part allows me to be creative when trying to find recognition gifts. These gifts end up being meaningful because they are unique and thoughtful. Whereas someone great at connecting with the team can give donuts and get the same response, I have to be a little more inventive because of my struggle connecting.
Identify those weaknesses or opportunities and examine how your strengths can minimize those weaknesses. You will be far more successful relying on your strengths than on changing your weaknesses. I’m not saying you can’t change your weaknesses directly; that’s my plan, but if that isn’t for you, there is a way to reduce the impact your weaknesses have on your success.
For resources on doing this, I would recommend Emergenetics or a lighter read, Soar with Your Strengths.